You are in love, and you don’t want to be far away from each other, you wish you can just live with the person you love so they are the first person you see when you open your eyes. You want them to be the last person you talked to before going to sleep. Feelings are so powerful that sometimes you can’t think straight anymore. Yes, you are in love but after a month of dating and you are already asking yourself “should I be moving in with my boyfriend?”.
There are factors that you need to consider before plunging yourself into the “unknown” because in reality, you still really don’t know the person. So, what are the things to consider before moving in with my boyfriend? Let us find out below.
1). Who else will you have to live with besides him?
You need to make sure that if ever you live with him, there won’t be like the whole clan living with you two. He should at least have a place of his own and not living with his parents or such. His brother can be an exception, and if there are rooms to separate you. You cannot live with anyone in one room with five people inside it.
2). Money matters
So how does he handle his finances? Is he a one-day millionaire kind of person? Is he a person who is rich today and borrowing money tomorrow? You should be careful because you don’t want yourself to be the breadwinner in this set-up while he doesn’t give a damn about spending your money. It should be a two-way street where two of you work and both of you will enjoy your earnings. In responsible spending, of course.
3). Where does he live?
If you are planning to live with him in a room where only one can sleep lying down, you better think again. If you want to live with someone, you should at least have a decent space to live in. You cannot live in such a small and cramped space and wonder where you will still take a shower or even wash your face.
If he is living in a lousy neighborhood where peace seems to be a thing of the past, maybe you are better off living with your parents or by yourself.
4). Quirks and habits
We all have those differences that give us our individuality, but also know what quirks your boyfriend has and if you can live with it. You don’t want to find out that your boyfriend loves to take a peek while you are doing your thing in the bathroom or worst taking a peek at your next-door neighbor and finding it out too late.
What is the first thing he does when he wakes up? Does he shower or perhaps go to the fridge and drink milk or maybe brush his teeth directly after waking up? These things are just mere examples, but daily tasks and activities your boyfriend does will make a great impact on your relationship when you are together living under one roof. The best thing if his activities are all harmless but add to his cuteness. But what if it is the other way around?
5). What does he do?
Does he work? Is he still studying while working? What else does he do during his free time? If all he does is think about how to make a living and saving for the future or something to that positive effect, then you should be with him cause he is a wonderful influence. But if he is a boyfriend that just bums around the whole day, having a beer and all that stuff – think things through first before making any (wrong) decisions.
6). Is he a responsible person?
While you are with him and not yet living with him, you will see where his priority lies. Is he a person who has goals in life and someone who uses his time well? It is as simple as keeping his promises to you. He always does what he says. He is very responsible and knows what is important in life.
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7). What about the future?
Does he have any plans for the two of you? Is he hinting of wanting to get married someday when you are all ready and have a stable life? Is he a boyfriend that does not fool around with other women? If he is someone who always has their eyes glued on women passing by and have little time for you, what future will you have with him? A bleak future, perhaps.
8). Does he have vices?
What vices does he have? Does he drink occasionally or maybe play cards now and then, but just with his buddies? Or if the worst vice he has is watching series on Netflix now and then, you have nothing to worry about.
9). How serious he is with you?
If your boyfriend is talking about seeing himself getting married and having kids. Such and while saying that he is looking straight at you and watching your reaction, this has a high probability that he is serious with you and is checking on your reaction hoping it is good. If he is someone who is not afraid of commitment, he will commit himself to you especially if you are already planning on doing that with him for the time being.
10). How he is with his family?
How he treats his family will somehow show you how he will treat you. If your boyfriend is someone respectful of his parents and his siblings. He is always talking about them with high regard, you will have lesser things to worry about. A person who knows how to show respect, love, and affection to their family most. Especially when they are not in front of them is a keeper. Some people are only showing respect when they are facing the person but are different when they have their backs on them. He is emotional in a wonderful way, he is loving and he will also love and value you.
