A lot of people dream of having a prince charming sweeping them off their feet or an enchanted princess that can kiss all their troubles away. When couples are in their honeymoon phase of the relationship, they feel like they’re on top of the world. Adrenaline and oxytocin are always high when partners are with each other, and they just think that this fun ride will never end.
But for some, when the thrill and glamor are over, they start to truly see who their partner is and realize that they might not really be the prince or princess that they’re looking for. Relationship issues then start to come.
Abuse and complete hatred are not necessary for couples to break up. Sometimes, it’s the little things combined that break the camel’s back. Here are 8 subtle signs that the relationship isn’t going to last and you and your partner are just not meant to be.
1). The Fighting Has Lost All Senses
Conflicts can be hard, but they are a sign of a normal and healthy relationship. Fighting is an opportunity for partners to learn more about each other and be able to grow together. A relationship that does not have fighting, however, is a sign of a relationship that’s falling apart. Couples who either just agree with each other every single time or force the problem to be buried and forgotten are signs that there is trouble in paradise. Not fighting is a sign that the passion for one another is gone and both parties are caring less for each other.
2). Intimacy Just Feels Like a Chore
Just like losing the passion from fighting, when being intimate with your partner no longer feels fun or relaxing, then maybe it’s time to reconsider your relationship. It’s normal to feel tired once in a while and just want to take things easy, but doing romantic things should not feel like a burden.
3 You and Your Partner Want Space… A Lot
Space is important for every people, even for those in a relationship. Having space to breathe allows us to do the things we love by ourselves and to self-meditate and reflect. But if space is the only thing you and your partner want, why even bother staying with each other? Couples who always impose distance between one another might have some unresolved conflict going on.
4 You Dabble On The Thought of Cheating
Thinking about being with another man and woman can happen sometimes, and people just usually shrug these thoughts away. But if you are thinking about being with someone else for almost 24/7, we’re sorry to tell but it’s time to tell your partner that you need to talk. Not only is thinking about cheating constantly can possibly end in bigger relationship issues, but it’s also unfair for your partner that you are having those thoughts behind their back.
5 You Stop Doing Things Together and Make Excuses
“I don’t want to eat dinner out, I still feel full.” “I change my mind. Let’s cancel our plans for the night.” “I don’t feel like doing that with you anymore.” Ever heard of phrases similar to these? If the activities you and your partner once enjoy are no longer exciting, and you two just end up not doing anything anymore, it seems like the relationship may be coming to a halt. And while we do make excuses now and then, no one deserves to be turned down every time by their loved one.
6). You’d Rather Be Somewhere Else Than With you Partner
It’s great to spend time with your friends and family, but if you’d rather be with them than be with your partner all the time, then there might be something bad going on. Ignoring one another and finding fun from others can be a red flag in the relationship. It can be a sign that the two of you are just not meant to spend time anymore.
7). You Have That Feeling in your Guts
Relationship issues can leave us feeling anxious without us even knowing. Listen to what your gut is saying. Our bodies can warn us if we no longer feel happy or comfortable. Listen to yourself and consider your emotions.
8). And Finally: You and Your Partner Are Always Unhappy
If your time with your partner is just plagued with relationship issues, then it’s no longer worth it to stay. Maybe no one wants to speak out about it and just wants the other person to remain in their lives. Maybe it’s the fear of being alone or that wistful sense that the relationship can get better in the future. But if the relationship is just bringing you two to misery, why even bother? There is nothing wrong with calling it quits mutually.
If you see yourself in one or more of these situations, maybe it’s time to give your partner “the talk.” No one should be in a relationship where they feel unfulfilled and depressed. Always remember that it’s better to be happy alone than be miserable together.