Being a mom is the most wonderful experience in this world, but it can daunt at times. Sometimes you even say if you only know the top 10 things to be an amazing mom, at least you have something to follow.
Sometimes you don’t know where to start, and finally, when you are halfway through and feeling proud of yourself, you will suddenly stop to question yourself if you are doing the right thing with your children.
Well, we can only hope that our children would end up reaching for their dreams and be successful. That is what we all can do as parents. Although there are hundreds of rules to live by, these tips here are a start.
1). Let your children learn from their mistakes
our children will learn nothing if we always save them every time they are about to make a mistake.
When they are little, we are always hovering and watching them unwaveringly, so we are there before they even fall to the ground before they trip or scratch their knees.
That is all right for the first few years, but if we continue to hover over them and they don’t get a clue like if they always run fast and not be cautious, eventually they will fall flat on their face.
They need to realize the consequences of their actions, that if they don’t take care, they will get hurt and so they need not make the same mistake. There should be a realization, otherwise, your children will go through life thinking that everything is a breeze, and there is always someone to catch them when they fall.
2). Let them get bored and don’t be their clown
children nowadays, get easily frustrated, because of the emergence of gadgets and devices. Children nowadays don’t know what to do after their gadget’s batteries drained or if there is no electricity. You, as an amazing mom, keep them entertained by asking them what they need and giving them what they want.
What we should do is to let them get bored once in a while so they will entertain themselves at home. It will help them think of something to do with their time, for them to be creative instead of depending on gadgets and technology to keep them happy.
Let them get back to what they loved doing before technology took over.
Do not hover over them in hopes to keep them entertained, and for them not to get bored, this will not help them at all. Let them get busy with art or musical instruments and let them use their time productively.
3). Do not compare yourself with other moms
Do not criticize yourself and compare yourself with other amazing mom that you think is doing a perfect job. You don’t know what those moms are also experiencing. Maybe they know how to handle themselves better, and they are great at hiding stress.
Each mom tackles their family issues the best way they know-how, and they raise their children accordingly.
You can’t say that you are a failure, while others are perfectly handling being a mom.
Your child will be the one to tell you how great you are by how they turn out when they are old, and you can never compare yourself to other mothers out there.
Moms are always at the start, and will never really get to the finish line because even if your children grow older, you will still be there being a mom in the background, silently prodding your children to keep on succeeding and finding their happiness.
4). Our presence will mean more than material presents
Yes, you may buy the most expensive gift for your children and whatever their heart’s desire, but is it what they need? Is it what’s good for them?
An amazing mom’s presence will never compare to anything. A cheering look, that warm smile, that loving embrace can never be compared to anything with a price here on earth. So, even if you can’t buy your children the most expensive gadget on their birthday, what they will remember for the rest of their life is the time you were there during the most important events in their life. It is not the newest cell phone you gave them or the latest watch they will remember. Your presence can never amount to anything.
5). Always have the time to hear and not just to listen
Even if you are too busy with work and you have a deadline, remember that your child needs you and they need someone who will listen to them and you as an amazing mom should be their first line of defense. When they are feeling down and confused, a mother should be there to cheer them up and to make them understand that no matter what happens, you will always have the time to hear them out.
A child’s self-esteem at a young age is still developing and is still very fragile, once they see that you are ignoring them, it will surely be remembered.
Keep in mind that listening differs from hearing them, so know the difference between the two.
Children who, while growing have moms that listen and hear them, have high confidence in themselves, because of the reassurance they get while they are young and still building up their individuality.
6). Do not compare your children with others
every child is unique, and that is what you should keep in mind. You, as a mom, should never compare your kids among each other, never say who’s smarter, who is more beautiful, who is more talented. Every one of them has their talent and strength and weaknesses. Be able to understand what strength, each of them has and nurture it.
If one child is better at singing, but fails at math, then nurture that specialty. Do not let them feel that they are a failure at anything but make them realize that it is just natural to not be good at one thing but better in another. What they must do instead is to make their weakness their strength and to do what they can to be better. Make them accept it and help them understand.
7). Encourage them
understand your children and what they love. Support them at all times and try to see their potential. Sometimes parents can see how well their child is but cannot push them in the right direction. You, as an amazing mom, should be able to make your child realize their potential to help them succeed.
Although you cannot see the potential at first, you can instead make them try something new and make them experience new things, and from there, you can gauge what is their leaning.
Encourage them and let them see that you are there to support them, to matter what.
8). Do not do everything for them
your child should realize that they don’t have you to do everything around the house or do everything for them. You are their mom and not a doormat. They should learn to lend a helping hand around the house so they will realize that for a unit (your family) to succeed, everyone must learn to pitch in. This will also teach them about responsibility and being a team player, which they can use as they grow old.
Your children will thank you because you helped them be that way. You have honed them not to rely on anybody else but themselves.
9). Have rules and stick to it
Be firm. Have rules around the house and stick to it. Do not make rules today only to change it the next. Do not be swayed by your children because they are throwing tantrums with the rules you made. They should know that rules are something that they should follow. Even if you are their parents, you are not a pushover.
Once a child learns to follow the rules in their house, it is just a breeze for them to follow rules in the community, when they are already working and when they have families of their own.
This will also help them become good citizens in the future.
10). let your child be a child and enjoy it
Do not let your child worry about your issues with your neighbor, or your late payment with the rent or the house bills. They should not feel threatened that their basic needs will stop or that next day, they will not have a roof over their head. Let them enjoy being a child and as much as possible not to make them see you having problems with your finances or see grownup issues that you are having.
That can also traumatize a child once you let them worry about adult things at a young age, give them the time to enjoy being a child, and let them have their time adulting later on.
And as an amazing mom, keep on facing life’s challenges courageously.